An educator shared the following anecdote. “One of our support teachers was facilitating a boy on the autism spectrum, and after a few weeks, decided to take “no” out of her vocabulary, replacing it with “try again”. The difference was amazing! He started saying it to himself as he began to self-regulate his behavior, while learning independence and confidence. I watched him try at least 10x (attempting) to put on his coat, mumbling “try again” until he got it himself . What a difference changing “no” to “try again” made!”
Notice that the effort was on the teacher to change her words. What words can you take out of your vocabulary that will have an impact?