“Babies and young children are like the R&D division of the human species,” says psychologist Alison Gopnik. Her research explores the sophisticated intelligence-gathering and decision-making that babies are really doing when they play.


Alison Gopnik takes us into the fascinating minds of babies and children, and shows us how much we understand before we even realize we do.


via Alison Gopnik: What do babies think? | Video on TED.com.



Conversation overheard in Target ( Toddler and Mother on the next aisle)

Toddler: “Mommy, I heavy!”  “Mommy, I heavy!”
Mother: “Are you saying you are heavy?”

Toddler: “No, I heavy.”

Mother: “Is that can heavy?”

Toddler: “Yes. Mommy I heavy.”

Mother: “Oh, the can is heavy. Are you saying you are strong?”

Toddler:”Yes, I heavy.”

Mother: “Yes, the can is heavy and you are very strong!”

Toddler: “I want that.”

Mother: ” Do you want the hot dog buns?”

Toddler: “Bums, bums, bums”

Mother:” Do you want the hot dog bunnnns?”

Toddler: ” Yes, Mommy- bunnnnnnnnnnnnnns!”

Mother: “We need hot dogs to go with those buns!”

Toddler: “No, I want bunnnnns!”


According to Dr. Kathy, Hirsh-Pasek, Temple University Lefkowitz Professor of Psychology and Director, Infant Language Laboratory the research shows that we should:

Talk with infants, but let them drive the conversation.
Infants and toddlers build their language and learning through interactive, responsive and meaningful environments. The amount of language babies hear alone will not breed language learning or later literacy. What counts is responsive language where caregivers are:
• Talking with not talking at
• Expanding on what the child says and does
• Noticing what the child finds interesting and commenting
Adults who take turns in interactions with young children, share periods of joint focus, and express positive emotion provide children with the foundation needed to facilitate their language and mental growth. Stimulating and responsive parenting in early childhood are considered the strongest predictors of children’s later language, cognitive and social skills.


Guest Post by Teresa Cole Co-founder of The Nest Nursery School


You know how some people are “good” with babies and some not so much?  Why is that?  I believe it is because infants and young children are very intuitive and they pick up on the very subtle clues in the body movement, anxiety/stress, and tone of voice of adults.  In toddlers and preschoolers body language, tone of voice and inflection can have a big effect on what the adult is saying.  Sometimes it’s not what you say, but how you say it.


After reading Teresa’s post, I found this from “Baby Talk” website (link below):

“Dr. Jeree Pawl, Director of the Parent-Infant Program at San Francisco General Hospital, views infants not as helpless “blank slates” on which parents will create a personality, but rather powerful, idiosyncratic individuals capable of largely controlling their own environments. She cites several studies which support the view of the infant not as a passive creature but as an active seeker of stimulation. In establishing and maintaining eye contact, for example, the baby is the “speaker” and the parent the “listener,” as the parent is always waiting for

the baby’s gaze, and it is the baby who looks away when he decides he has had enough. In this way, the baby brings to bear his own control in establishing communication with his parents. Parents and babies begin communication not only in eye contact, but in physical contact as well. In their book The Earliest Relationship, Drs. T. Berry Brazelton and Bertrand G. Cramer explore fully the role of body language in attaching parents and infants:

“When a mother holds her newborn in a comfortable, cuddled position, the infant molds into her body. On her shoulder, the infant lifts his or her head to scan the room, then settles a soft, fuzzy scalp into the crook of her neck. As she automatically pulls the infant to her, a newborn will burrow harder into her neck, molding his or her body against hers, legs adjusting to fit her body. All of these responses say to her, ‘You are doing the right thing.’ If she leans down to speak in one ear, the baby turns to her voice and looks for her face. Finding it the newborn’s face brightens as if to say, ‘There you are!’ A newborn will choose a female voice over a male, as if to say, ‘I know you already and you are important to me.”


It is fascinating to watch a toddler’s body language as he begins to approach other people. Alternatingly shy and then too forward, he experiments with the same gestures he has learned with his parents. There are few sights more warming than watching a chubby toddler hand lovingly pat a playmate in distress! And in addition to those loving gestures, toddlers demonstrate other behaviors, including often bold-faced aggression. All of this is the laboratory for discovering what works and what doesn’t in human relationships. And young children, like their parents, learn most from their mistakes!”

We can’t forget the importance of the parents in our work with  babies, toddlers, and young children.  Seeing the triangle of child-parent- caregiver/teacher in all our encounters.  Additionally, seeing the triangle of movement (body language)-oral language- and attitude in our encounters. Reflect on “HOW you are saying” things to the children around you. What is your body saying?  Are your words saying one thing and your body another?  ( You can think about this with husbands too!)

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